Aducci, C. J.Baptist, Joyce A.George, JayashreeBarros, Patricia Cristina Monteiro deGoff, Briana S. Nelson2012-08-072012-08-072012-08-07http://hdl.handle.net/2097/14132Interviews with 25 military wives to elicit their lived experience of OIF/OEF deployment found two main themes: the recipe for being a good military wife and managing split loyalties. Military wives’ experience reflected a disenfranchised existence. Their stress was exacerbated by the reality of the composition of their marital relationship -- a couple-military threesome -- that they bore in silence. Their marginalization did not deter them from supporting their husbands the best they could, reflecting their inherent strength and resilience. The wives had a recipe that helped them manage the stresses inherent in deployment. Research and clinical implications are discussed.This is an electronic version of an article published in Aducci, C. J., Baptist, J. A., George, J., Barros, P. M., & Goff, B. S. N. (2011). The recipe for being a good military wife: How military wives managed OIF/OEF deployment. Journal of Feminist Family Therapy, 23(3-4),231-249. Journal of Feminist Family Therapy is available online at http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/pdf/10.1080/08952833.2011.604526Military wivesOperation Iraqi Freedom/Operation Enduring Freedom deploymentCombat deploymentQualitative researchFeminist epistemologyMilitary couplesArticle (author version)